About Kristena

A picture of KristenaWelcome to Zero To Twenty One! I am so glad to see you have decided to take a look around. I just want to give you a little information about myself and why I created this website. I hope you enjoy what you read here and find the information I provide you helpful and comforting.

This is who I am.

So to give you a little information about myself I am going to start off by telling you that I am a mother of 4 children and a grandmother of 2 children, plus I am the oldest child of 7 siblings and pretty much the oldest child of everyone in my family (cousins, second cousins, you get the gist).

I am married and have been for 8 years come August (been with him for 10 years), however, my children are not my husband’s children (biologically) and if you do the math that means he did not come into my life until my oldest child was around 13 years old.

If you haven’t figured it out yet I raised my children alone for 13 years and in all actuality I am still raising them alone because he is a truck driver and is always on the road. Oh and did I forget to mention that my husband is 6 years younger than me? HaHaHa!

So, I am a mother and grandmother and wife and that pretty much sums up who I am in a nutshell because to be perfectly honest my family is more important to me than anything else in this world so my life revolves around them.

Parenting is not an easy task.

Are you a parent?

Does it sometimes feel as if you are failing at it?

I created this site because I was in your shoes and pretty much still am at times even though I have been at this for 22 years. What makes it worse is that I suffer from anxiety and depression which trickles down to my children, and even my husband sometimes, and then I feel like I am on a roller coaster ride with my emotions.

The worrying that I am not raising them right, that my emotional roller coaster ride is affecting them in a bad way, that they are going to resent me, etc.

Unlike you at this very moment, I didn’t have a place that I could go to listen to someone else’s story and see that I am not alone, that I am not failing at being a parent. I didn’t have somewhere that I could read someone else’s stories and laugh or remind me that parenting is not a job that you can perfect and there will always be ups and downs.

So I created this site because I want to help my fellow parents. I want to provide some advice on possible ways to handle things based on my own experiences with those same issues. I want to provide a place for a parent to go to get a little laugh, either at me or themselves.

Parenting is a tough and thankless job and it helps to have someone out there to either laugh about the things they have gone through because they match what you are going through or vent your frustrations with or even ask some questions about things you are not sure how to handle.

Hoping that I help enough parents along the way.

I hope that my stories will inspire other parents and make them feel a little better about their parenting ways. I hope to remind parents that no parent is perfect and you will make mistakes, but that it is okay as long as you learn from them.
My hope for this site is that you will get a good laugh or maybe even a good cry out of my stories and hopefully make you realize that it isn’t as bad as you thought it was.

My goals are to help all of my fellow parents out there (biological or not, grandparents, guardians, whatever kind of parent you are) with stories, advice, and anything else that I can possibly do to get you through the tough times that you are most likely going to face at one time or another.

Remember parenting doesn’t end when they move out.

If you ever need a hand or have any questions, feel free to leave them below and I will be more than happy to help you out.


All the best,

Kristena (pronounced Christina)

Founder of Zero To Twenty One

4 Comments

  • Paul

    Hi Kristena.
    What a great idea for a site. I have four kids of my own all under the age of twelve so believe me I no how stressed out it can get you. My two youngest are only 10 months apart. What I have noticed since they have been born is getting a night out with my wife is a lot harder than it used to be. Also trying to get a day out to the local park or something with all the kids is like planning a holiday lol.

    • Kristena

      Paul,

      So, So, So, true. We only have 3 left at home now and recently went on a cruise (which is my next topic) with all 3 of them. Now my kids are teenagers now and it was still pretty hectic especially since momma didn’t pay for wifi on the boat. There is plenty for them to do and they even had youth programs and yet my children still told me they were bored. I also feel you on the having a night out with your spouse. Me and mine have an even harder time because he is always on the road and I don’t like leaving my children too long at night even though they are old enough to take care of themselves.

  • Luigi

    Hey Kristena
    I hear you. I am a father of 2 and grandfather of 2, the latest one being 7 months old and going from being a great sleeper to a clingy girl who is denying her mother and father a good night’s sleep. My kids are adults, but they are still my kids and I still worry about them, help them out and love spending time with them:)
    I don’t so much enjoy my garage being half full of things that they have left with us, even though they left home long ago lol

    • Kristena

      Luigi,

      I can completely feel you on the storage thing. We had a CAT5 hurricane hit us back in October and my sister lost her home so she is now staying with us (along with my daughter and her two children) and all of her stuff has taken up our entire shed, my youngest daughter’s room and my son’s room and the worst part is she isn’t even really here most of the time (she stays with her boyfriend more than here) so she is basically using our home as her storage shed. I am also not used to having toddlers in the house again considering my youngest child is 11 years old. LOL! So, even though I love my grandchildren they drive me absolutely insane. LOL!

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